Happy Wednesday! The young man in the photo above with his back to us (#4) calling for the ball, is our 9-year-old grandson Riley.

As you know I have the aptitudes of an inventor. Because of this I tend to see things a little differently. In You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It! I show the reader that bullying hurts everyone involved, but it hurts the bully more than anyone else. The following example is not the example I use in the book, but for this blog it’s a great place to start.

I want you to picture two men fighting. They are really going at it punching, kicking, scratching, and biting. You name it, the two men are doing it in this vicious fight because they know the winner gets to control the other man. After some time one of the men is able to get the other man down on the ground and is sitting on him. The man on top has the other man pinned to the floor. He’s holding his arms and legs to the floor while he is sitting on him.

The question is, which of these men do you think is the winner? Is it the man on the bottom being held to the floor, or the man on top holding the other man to the floor?

The people I have talked to about this situation say that the man on top is the winner. I disagree. I argue that both men have lost. Yes, the man on top is more in control of the situation, but the second he lets go, the man on the bottom will break free and the fight roars back to life. And the enormous effort it takes to try to hold each other down continues forever.  

Now let’s take the same two men. However, this time instead of trying to control each other, they work together using each other’s natural gifts to achieve whatever it is that they are trying to accomplish. With both men working together, they not only achieve their goals, but in comparison to trying to hold each other down they accomplish their goals with ease.

Now you tell me, which way would you like to deal with your fellow brothers and sisters of the human race?  You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It!

You can buy my book, You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It! on Amazon in paperback and Kindle. If you have already read You’re Amazing! I would greatly appreciate you giving it a review on Amazon. It will help us spread the message of positive self-esteem and self-acceptance. All of us together can heal the world one person at a time.

As always, I welcome your comments and stories. If you would like to follow my blog, please click on the plus (+) sign in the upper left-hand corner of this page. See you next week!

Neal G. Brownell



Twitter:  @NealGBrownell

Guest on –

Be Awesome Podcast with Dr. Kristina Hallett (air date TBD)                                            

  Heroes Like You Podcast with Joe Belliston (air date TBD)

Let’s Live! with Thurman Greco – Woodstock, NY cable TV

Beyond Risk and Back with Aaron Huey (air date TBD)

Which Way? with Shari and Jann Simmons (air date Friday 1/10/20)                                                                            

The Empowered Whistleblower with Dawn Westmoreland (air date TBD)

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