Hope you all are well. We have a Free giveaway that we talk about later in this blog. On Friday, October 15, we had our first TV appearance for You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It! The show is called Let’s Live! with Thurman Greco and it is being aired on Woodstock, NY Cable this week. Thurman is a big advocate for local authors and is an author herself. She is always looking for someone to be on her show, so feel free to contact her at thurmangreco@gmail.com 

We had an hour long discussion about You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It!, the classes that we teach, and how people are using the book all over the country to help loved ones find themselves. We had a lot of fun and hope we were able to help lots of people. If you’re looking for a tool to help a loved one see how amazing they are, go to Amazon and buy You’re Amazing as your gift to them.

 We also have a Free Giveaway running on www.youreamazingandillproveit.com You can win a Knowledge Is Freedom t-shirt that says “There Are No Throw-Away People” and an autographed copy of You’re Amazing. Enter now!

Now to share the wisdom of a 61 year old inventor named Neal (me).

Communication Is The Answer

When my son David was 4 years old, my wife and I were having a great deal of trouble getting him to behave. No matter what we did, we couldn’t get him to behave. I know many of you are probably saying why don’t you just spank him. Along with many other things we had tried, spanking was one of them. In fact, spanking was the reason we called for help in the first place. You see the last time we disciplined him before we called for help, we were trying to get him to behave so I spanked him on his little heinie and he acted up more. So, I spanked him a little harder. He acted up even more. I then tried spanking him again and his behavior just got worse. I finally looked at my wife and said, “This isn’t working! I can’t spank him any harder, I could physically hurt him. We need help!”  After all we had never been a parent to such a strong-willed child before, so we were willing to listen to anyone who had information on how to deal with the situation.

Because of this we asked for parenting help from one of the local pre-schools who specialized in dealing with hard to reach children.

I was surprised when I discovered the technique this school used. First a woman,  Jean, came into our home once a month. I thought this was to teach us how to deal with David. The first time Jean came into our home I thought it was a disaster.

David was acting up and Deb and I could not stop him. We were so embarrassed. Jean calmly looked at us and asked, “Is it ok if I deal with this situation?” We said, “YES!” She then put David in his room, which was right off of the room we were sitting in and told him to stay in his room. Jean returned to the room Deb and I were in. She sat down and started talking to us. David was screaming and throwing his toys out of his room into the room we were in. Jean ignored David’s behavior. Deb and I looked at her as if to say what the heck is going on here? Jean said, “for now don’t worry about the screaming and throwing things. I told him to stay in his room and that is what he is doing. So, this is a win. We will work on the other behaviors as we go forward. But, for now he is doing what I told him to do.”

David started going to Children’s Express Day Care and Jean continued to come into our home and counseled Deb and I. However, with the exception of the first time Jean came into our home, she never dealt with David at home. She would sit with Deb and I at our kitchen table and talked to us as a couple. We thought Jean was going to help us be better parents by teaching us how to deal with David. However, what she really was doing, when she was in our home, was to teach Deb and I how to communicate more effectively as a couple. As time went by, we communicated better with each other. This led to fewer and fewer clashes between Deb and I and at the same time it led to communicating with David more effectively. This led to fewer and fewer clashes with David. David is now 32 years old and is one of the kindest men I have ever known.

I have another blog that is entitled My Wife and I Had A Fight in which I talk about how important communication is. David’s story is another way of showing how important communication between all of us is. Next week I’ll tell you what Jean and Children’s Express did to help 4-year-old David see the importance of communicating and showing compassion to others.   

As always, I love hearing your stories and comments. If you want to follow my blog please click on the plus sign in the upper left-hand corner of this page. See you next week!  

This past week has been full of more events. On Saturday we had a table at the Woodstock, NY Elementary PTA Craft fair. It was a fun event and we made some great connections. Thank you to Gillian Jule and Heather Longyear for having us. Today I had a great interview with Joe Belliston who is the host of the Heroes Like You podcast. I had a lot of fun, Joe is awesome. We will let you know when that episode will be aired. Also, on this coming Friday, November 15, 2019, my wife, Linda and I have been asked to make our first TV appearance for You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It!  The name of the show is Let’s Live! with Thurman Greco and it is on Woodstock, NY Cable channel 23 at 7 pm. If you get a chance tune it in! Last, but certainly not least, our computer guru, Shane of Zeromorph has designed a page at www.youreamazingandillproveit.com    At present we are running a contest on that page. If you enter your email you get a free download of a portion of You’re Amazing,  and if you win, you get an autographed copy of You’re Amazing along with one of our new Knowledge Is Freedom Publishing t-shirts that says “There Are No Throw-Away People!” Enter now! The next winner will be announced on November 30, 2019.

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Hello everybody, hope you all are doing well. This coming Friday, November 8, I am excited to be a guest on the Heroes Like You podcast which is hosted by Joe Belliston. It is not a live interview, so I will let you know when the episode will be aired. In the meantime, feel free to go to www.heroeslikeyou.com and listen to his other episodes. Joe’s podcast is about suicide prevention and helping individuals with their challenges in life. He is helping a lot of people. If you know anyone that needs to be lifted, they should listen to Joe’s podcast.

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I hope everyone is doing well. This past Friday Oct. 25, 2019, I was on the Hollis Chapman Podcast Show. Hollis and I talked about how You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It! is being used by people of all walks of life to help loved ones and people they care about, find themselves. Hollis is awesome! He works with Vets and others to help them find themselves, while at the same time helping them raise their self-esteem. He is helping a lot of people. I want to thank Hollis for allowing me to help him help others. If you would like to listen to the podcast show I was on I will put that link as soon as I have it. In the meantime here is the link to all of Hollis’s shows – https://www.blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow

I also want to thank Dr. Kristina Hallett who had me on her podcast the Be Awesome show today, Oct. 30, 2019, also talking about how others are helping people with You’re Amazing. Dr. Kristina is helping an enormous amount of people. Thank you, Dr. Kristina, for allowing me to help you help others. As soon as we know the link, we will give it to you so you can listen to the podcast. In the meantime, here is the link to Be Awesome so you can listen to all of Dr. Kristina Hallett’s inspirational and informative shows. http://www.mentalhealthnewsradionetwork.com/our-shows/be-awesome-podcast/

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Linda and I told you last week that we have been invited on two podcasts to talk about You’re Amazing And I’ll Prove It! The first one is coming up this Friday, it is The Hollis Chapman Show. You can listen to me live on The Hollis Chapman Show, with host Hollis Chapman, on Friday, October 25 at noon EST by going to https://blogtalkradio.com/hollischapmanshow

The other podcast, as we told you last week, is Heroes Like You with host Joe Belliston. Last week we told you that we didn’t have a date for this interview. Well now we have a date. The interview is set for November 8, but this one is not a live interview. After the interview we will ask Joe to let us know when it will be aired. Hopefully Joe will give us a link to the interview that we can put on this site.

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This is a photo of my late wife Deb and my son, David, who is now 32.

A few weeks back I listed and thanked many of the people who have helped Linda and I with getting You’re Amazing to this point. Today I would like to thank two of our newest angels who are helping us with our latest challenges. Cheryl Schuman, who is a long-time friend, is currently making curtains for behind the timeline. We also want to thank the newest member of our team, Shane Brown, who is an incredible professional website designer and a wizard at social media marketing. The next sentence is for Shane – Hey Shane – I actually think I am starting to understand social media marketing!

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